Days of a SAHM

Hi,

I'm still alive!?!

Everyday is a challenge with a colic baby. I dread or rather we dread evenings as that is when baby let loose and scream his lungs out. In the day, he is an extremely light sleeper so any sound will stir the dragon and we incur his wrath. We tried playing music, turning on the radio, but he miraculously has the ability to differentiate sounds. So even with the radio, he can filter out the door opening, your footsteps, I suspect even humans breathing. When he gets angry, he screams as though he was beaten. Rarely there will be tears. It is just non stop screaming. When he wants milk, U have to give it to him immediately, like NOW! If not, he will scream and scream so much so that your hands will tremble in fear when preparing his milk. And he will be sure to give you hell after he's done drinking. He will refuse to sleep and insist you talk to him until your throat gets so dry and your tongue sticks to the top of your mouth. When you talk to him, he will ohhh ohhh Ahhh Ahhh back, which makes your heart melt and you forgot about the terrible screaming before. But when he is sick of the conversation and wants to sleep, he makes sure you shake the yao lan, pat his butt and stuff the pacifier all at the same time. If the pacifier drops out, you are dead meat and he will scream till you almost go deaf. But when he's finally asleep, you look at that angel face and your heart melts again. But 10 mins later, he will scream and stir again because there's an extremely active and LOUD toddler with shouting grandparents in the living room. So Mr little light sleeper is affected and be angry. So the patting and shaking and stuffing restarts and this vicious cycle repeats and repeats until the active toddler takes her naps or when it's night time. Thank goodness he drinks milk and sleep easily at night. He is better than an alarm clock, wakes up for milk on the dot every 3 hours. Sometimes every 2 hours. He doesn't miss a feed. Maybe that's why he is a little 小胖子 now, but I love fatty people lol. 

Do I sound like I'm complaining? Coz I am not, I'm just telling you my everyday lol. 

Still feel ver blessed and grateful that God gave him to me, even though he may be a little challenging. But glad that I have a 'challenged' life now. 

On bad days, I'm happy to be lead to articles on Facebook about stillborn babies, they make me appreciate the bad days. Thank you, God for the Angel you gifted us. 

Is this normal?

Was carrying Alonso using the baba sling at home to make him sleep and when he had finally slept, the husband commented that it looks very comfortable for him.

Then I said "what if I tell you now that I need to shit?" *serious face*

Him: "it's okay ah, U can just go and shit, it's not hindering you...you still can take off your pants.."

Me: "just kidding la!"

5 mins later...

Me: "hey I really need to shit"

And so I went in to shit, carrying Alonso, wiped the bum, flushed and washed my hands..

Wtf did I just type above?

Motherhood level up!

Please tell me you have done this before so that I know I am a normal human..

Just so thankful that he didn't wake up or cry while I did the deed lol, can't imagine having to bounce up and down the toilet bowl wtf, and stuffing the pacifier back into his mouth..

Okay that's very disgusting!

Maybe you are wondering why I couldn't put him down! That's because he cries when let down on bed, he rejects the spring cradle, the human shake shake!

When I say cry, it actually means shouting/screaming. This little man doesn't cry, but he sure screams and screams! Okay very manly, boys don't cry Ya?

Having a second child

It's been a month since the delivery of my second child, Alonso. 

As parents, we thought experience will make this whole repeated process easier but no, every child is different. For example, with Arissa (my firstborn), she can lie on the bed awake but with Alonso, if he is awake, he has to be carried. 

I shopped online A LOT during Arissa's time, but with Alonso, there was practically no shopping online unless U call grocery shopping as shopping.

Okay enough of the comparisons!

No one told me these when I wanted a second kid or when I finally have one.

1. Attention

Everyone or rather most people said to always pay attention to your first kid as they could feel unbalanced. Since the baby can't understand yet, you should try to attend to your first kid first, it's okay to let the second baby cry. 

NO. Your second kid deserves your utmost attention too. He/she didn't chose to be second. Just because he/she is second doesn't means that he should be second in line for your attention. If he/she was your first, he would have the 100% attention but because he was born 2nd, he didn't get to enjoy the 100% attention he could have deserved. This little angel of yours didn't choose to be second. So why mama, do U care about jiejie/korkor's feelings before mine? Why? I am also your child, mama.

2. Comparisons

We love to compare, don't we? 

Mama, just because jiejie/korkor is easier to take care, doesn't means I'm a difficult baby..Why, mama, do U feel I'm a difficult baby? Why are you always comparing me to your firstborn? If I were first, you would have nothing to compare and you wouldn't think I was being difficult or bad tempered. Why do you call me naughty just because I want you to carry me? Why are U frustrated when I cry for your attention?

3. Panic level

When the first child had any conditions, the alarms in our head goes off and we panicked and goes off to the doctor or even the a&e.

But with the second child, we are more relaxed since we thought with experience, that was nothing.

Alonso had ringworm (skin condition) around his balls (I don't know how he gets it!) and we all thought it was just diaper rash. We tried to self treat it by applying tons of desitin (cream to prevent/treat diaper rash) and even antiseptic powder. He was a cry baby (okay he doesn't cry but he screams) for weeks and had to be carried to sleep. We thought he was a difficult baby, little did we know he had ringworm! Poor baby must be battling the itch! And we only know about that when we visited the doctor for one month review. Told the doctor that he seems to have diaper rash and the doctor took a look and said it's ringworm, some fungi infection blah blah..My heart broke! Then continue to check his mouth and he has some infection as well *cries and bang head on table* MY POOR BABY! U fucking bacteria fungi shit making my baby suffer!

After the meds application, he sleeps like an angel and kind of paying back sleep debt lol, slept like 4-5 hours before waking up for milk. My baby is not difficult, not a difficult baby! Not a naughty boy! 

This taught me to be ALWAYS KIASU!

Whatever out of the norms, go to the doctor! 

I feel so sorry for Alonso, because he gets compared to Arissa all the time. He was born 2nd not by choice and only have half of the attention by the parents, whereas Arissa at least get to enjoy 1+ years of 100% attention. 

The husband said that 1 + 1 is not equals to 2. Having 2 kids is well not the same of having 1 kid + 1 kid. It's totally different from what we expected, I guess. 

Will it really be possible to love your kids equally? Honestly? Well, to be honest, I don't think it is possible, since I know my parents love which of my siblings most.

People said to have at least 2 kids so that they can be there for each other, so that they can have company, so that they can share burdens (like when I grow old, both can share in taking care of me financially/physically), so that when the parents die, they have each other..

I totally agree. 

There is a lot to sacrifice if U have 2 kids compared to 1, so be prepared if you decided to have more than 1. #iamnotdiscouragingreproduction

When I had Arissa, I was paranoid that I or rather we, couldn't give her the BEST, in terms of financially like going to the best schools, best clothes, best toys. Ya la, I know I was being superficial. That paranoid thinking lasted a month only, let me conclude that was due to post preg depression, shall we? If the problem was about money, then it isn't a problem. The BEST I could give my child was simply LOVE. She doesn't need the best material things in life. 

Now that I have Alonso, I worried that my love or rather our love for our kids is insufficient. I worried that we can't love them equally. I worried that others won't love them equally. I worried that my son gets the 2nd kid 'branding'. #thismotherworriesalot

I can't imagine how to manage with a 3rd or 4th kid! I think will go crazy! Choy! Choy! #sorrygovernment #stoppingat2

Here's a picture to make this gloomy post less gloomy! 

2 weeks of having 2 kids..

It's been 2 weeks since I've given birth.

A hectic 2 weeks!

Both Bei and I were so worried that our firstborn, Arissa will be jealous of her little brother and feel unbalanced or insecured.

We tried our best to always be there for the both of them. 1 of us to settle the newborn while the other to accompany Arissa. But the first week, I was practically of no help, since I was recovering from the ahem tear/stitches down south. I was suddenly reminded why I previously only wanted one child, it's was #!?#@ so painful la! Am I the only one who always has the tear till the arsehole?! Fml..

But this time round, I'm healing faster compared to the last time. Stitches ain't swollen, except I got rashes, Fml la! I think it's the pad problem, lol too much details! But rashes recovered in 2 days with a lot of washing and soaking and washing and airing lol. Damn cham, why do women need to go thru all these? Why can't the tear just be glued back and healed completely in a day? Maybe next time, like 10 years later!

Arissa has been nothing but over enthusiastic about the brother. She adores him, I know it. She keeps crying for him and wanting to see him and touch him. I'm so proud of her yet at the same time so scared because she gets so excited and starts to go crazy. Her sayang becomes too rough for a newborn and she screams didi and start to scream "WAKE UP DIDI!" -_-"

Poor didi's eardrums! 

I hope they grow up getting along fine, my daughter is so loud, I wonder what will become of the brother? Equally loud? Fml! 

Okay, sleeping now while all is peaceful!

Bye!

Day 1 of post delivery

It is TRUE!

The 2nd labour is indeed easier than the first! Not only that, I don't feel tired after giving birth, wtf except for panting la!

The 1st labour, I totally knocked out after giving birth and slept so well, so drained until when the nurses pushed the baby over, I was like so goggly and said I needed to zzz.

But this 2nd labour, I can't even fall asleep until the morning 6am, faint and slept for 2 hours nia! Diao, hopefully tonight I can finally zzz properly. If not, when I check out and return home, I can forget about sleeping totally lor..

The hub went home and brought back Logan ginger tea, which I was looking forward to..Boy! This time round, maybe ginger cheaper or good ginger season, my mil put in a lot of ginger, I was burning the whole night after drinking yesterday lol, ma cham drinking the soup of fiery noodles. But it's good, cos i perspired a lot and smell stinky now but I think I perspire some fats out lol. Okay I'll go drink somemore of the spicy oil, oops I mean tea..

Arissa honeybun is coming to visit me later! So excited to show her didi! Kept my bread and biscuit from breakfast to bribe her later, food always work with this lady! 

Back to watching repeated movies on HBO! Seriously they need to update the movies on a daily basis la, How can yesterday's movies be the same as today's movies! 

Oh ya! TMC has free wifi, I just realized!

Damn it, I've send so much media yesterday and bound to exceed my data, geez! Now with 2 kids, need to be more auntie and make use of free wifi haha! Need to inform the hub too, who exceeds his data every month, tsk tsk!

This is it!

I'm lying in the delivery suite with contractions coming on and off every 6 mins. Pain on a scale of 0-10 is 4. 

Most people said the contractions is the most painful, but to me, the cutting of the vaginal is the MOST painful and oh the sewing back.

That's my greatest fear, and this is the last time to go through this (hopefully! Lol)

.....

Okay, Gynae came and said lets get on with this..broke the water bag and now gonna take epidural (greatest invention for women)..Baby Alonso, see you soon!

Hello Kitty fan, at her best :)

My little honeybun who is not so little anymore! 

We love hello kitty as you can see! 

All geared in hk to hit the pool!

Lighting just has to destroy this perfect picture *cries*

Top 10 differences between the first and second pregnancy

1. Diet

1st pregnancy - What diet? Whatever the baby wants to eat, I ate. 

Old folks say to satisfy all cravings if not the baby will come out to be a glutton. 

OK, point taken! EAT ALL I WANT!

2nd pregnancy - Thou shall not eat.

No sweet stuffs!

I am not going to make the same mistake of putting on more than 20 kg!

2. Shopping

1st pregnancy - ALL SOOOO CUTE!!! BUY ALL!!!

It's a girl and a girl can never have too many clothes.

Moreover, I don't have any pass-down baby girl clothes.

So, I bought all the PINK one can possibly find.

Why is there so many things to buy for a baby girl?

2nd pregnancy - Thou shall not spend unwisely.

I have 2 nephews, so there's plenty of baby boy's clothes.

And when I say plenty, it means it is enough for at least 5, okay maybe 10 baby boys!

My sister is 100 times crazier than me.

I bought less than 20 pieces of baby boy clothings.

So, I splurged on 1 jacket

which I am still feeling very guilty.

1 tiny jacket for the price of 1 kitchen set. 

Okay, never mind.

3. Medication / Supplements

1st pregnancy - I ate those pills faithfully.

2nd pregnancy - If I can remember, then I take them.

4. Transportation

1st pregnancy - When the husband can't send me or pick me up from work, I took the taxi.

2nd pregnancy - For the 1st and 2nd trimester, if there's no car, I took the bus (sometimes).

For the 3rd trimester, I took the taxi (because apparently some working adults need to be seated on the priority seats to play some lame iphone games).

5. Finance

1st pregnancy - That Chanel bag is nice! So are the earrings!

2nd pregnancy - If I buy this Chanel bag, I can buy so many shoes and clothes for the kids.

6. Push Present

1st pregnancy - 1 Chanel bag please!

2nd pregnancy - I need no Chanel. I want lasik, so that 

I can wake up, open my eyes and see my kids.

7. Husband

1st pregnancy - 

Wife: I am thirsty.

Husband: What drink do you want?

2nd pregnancy - 

Husband: I am thirsty.

Wife: What drink do you want?

8. Sleep

1st pregnancy - Sleep all I want.

2nd pregnancy - My 1st baby kid needs me, I have to wake up now.

9. Confinement Preparation

1st pregnancy - Read up online intensively,

listen to everyone's views.

2nd pregnancy - I've been there, done that. Nothing to prepare for.

10. Birth Preparation

1st pregnancy - 

Hospital bag packed.

Downloaded at least 20 hospital bag checklists just in case I missed out anything.

2nd pregnancy - 

RELAX lah,

I will pack it later~

I'm a Merries diaper hogger!

This is the current storeroom situation.

When there's a merries diapers sale, you whack! 

Do not hesitate, you will regret later when U are paying normal prices for it. 

I live by this principle 

Anyway, I've an excuse for hogging. 

Well, if Arissa outgrow these, her brother and nephew can use them! 

See! 

Savings in the long run! 

I'm such a thrifty person, flips hair 

Arissa Honeybun 1st year old birthday bash

After what seems like forever,

here is the post on Arissa's 1st year old birthday! 

She is now, 19 months

and her little brother will be out in 1 month' time.

This is how amazing God is,
and how blessed we are.

Her eyes on the birthday cake!

Our eyes on you, young lady!

My 1 and only picture with the 2nd love of my life 

Wishing you good health and happiness, my Honeybun 

In the end, we let her 'trash' the whole cake.

Beautiful set up of Hello-Kitty candy bar

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Customized Kit-Kats

Yummy éclairs!

Kids went crazy with the honeystars!

 Birthday cake was done by Bei,

took 1 day 1 night to complete!

That explains why Bei looks so tired in the pictures.

I told him for the next birthday or next kid,

we are so gonna order the cake instead and he agreed.

But now, he is saying for his son,

he wants to make his 1st birthday cake too!

*faints*

Cake pops were done by Bei too.

You can't imagine how many trips we made to different baking stores.

Miniature red velvet cupcakes

Photo booth was by:

http://www.unique-colours.com/

Everyone loves the photo booth!

erm, face was itchy -.-

All balloons decorations were from:

http://www.balloonsnkids.com/

If you have any questions about the party,

you can email me at lovjinjin@gmail.com

I'm off to plan for baby boy's full month party now~

lol, my life revolves around kids parties.

15 months...

Drama queen is full of expression, just drinking water..

Back to haunt

Sighs!

This 2nd pregnancy, I'm very conscious about the weight gain because if it's rocket high like Arissa's time, I thought I have to go through that diabetics test again. So all in all for the past few months, I've only gained 5 kgs which is amazing lol, I can be Japanese liao! 

But but but the Gynae said I still gonna go for the diabetics test, Fml cos I had gestational diabetics during my 1st pregnancy, siannnnnnnnn...

So I spammed all the durians and sweet drinks yesterday in anticipation of the tests next month which requires fasting (starve Preggy woman to death!), 3 blood withdrawal and sucky drinking of glucose!

Thank God that I only want 2 kids and just nice, 1 girl 1 boy! Okay I need to count my blessing instead of whining non stop!

Hopefully my weight gain can remain constant and the total weight gain is just 10 kg instead of the previous 20kg weight gain during 1st pregnancy! 

After this pregnancy, I can work hard to be hot mama lol. Gonna sign up all the nonsense facial and body treatments and do lasik and finally, focus on my career! 

Underwater world vs Sea Aquarium

Today, we went to the Underwater World!

When I was a kid, I used to go there with my family and I loved the moving travelator. 

I went to the Sea Aquarium with Bei's family before and found that it is so so boring, because they had only 1 station for interactive! And it was just to touch a couple of starfish and it was super crowded, seriously! 

Sea Aquarium is a huge ass place for tourists, people to go dating, or simply fish photographers -.-"

There's nothing much for families with little kids..

As a parent with a little kid myself, it is important to go to places that my honeybun will enjoy. So the husband suggested Underwater World! Well, we all know that the underwater world is like past season already cos the latest thing is sea aquarium. I went there with not much expectations though I remembered that there's a couple of stations for u to touch the fishes (interactive yo!)

Underwater world is so so much smaller and emptier (less crowded I like!).

They have stations for u to touch stingrays, feed stingrays, touch fishes, feed fishes! I find these more interesting than touching starfish! 

The good fathers teaching their daughters! 

Touch touch!

Can you see the baby stingray?

You can also pay a few dollars to feed huge arse stingrays like this one:

You are supposed to hold the food in between your fingers and put your hand into the water and the stingray will eat it from your fingers. Scary shit cos before the stingray eats it from your fingers, you freak out and release the food in the water lol! That's what our friends did! 

Bei wanted to bring honeybun to see fishes because honeybun has been saying Fish! Fish! whenever she sees one on the tv and its cartoon lol! 

Saw a peacock and some birds. Honeybun kept on pointing at them 'bird bird'! 

Went for the dolphin show at dolphin lagoon! Seals and pink Dolphins! 

Took a few pictures only cos I was busy watching the show to snap pics! 

My favourite family photo of 2015! 

Cheeky little kids! 

Okay, now go buy tickets to Underwater world please, before it closes down!

So sad to see that everyone is choosing to go boring Sea Aquarium instead!

There's this groupon deal for $35 for tickets to trick eye museum + underwater world + dolphin lagoon!

We are so shagged out after the underwater world and dolphin lagoon that we called it a day and decided to utilize the trick eye museum tickets another day! 

Ok bye off to zzz!

So blessed

Well, I'm pregnant again...

Our latest family photo, 4 of us :)

Angie's factory productivity rate is pretty good, haha! After this production, the factory operation will cease, thank you very much! God blessed me with a baby boy! Oh boy, I'm so lucky to have the next of both worlds, 1 girl and 1 boy, 好I've never been so happy seeing a dick lol. To illustrate it, here's a picture for you!

Actually deep down, I still can't believe that I'm so blessed, and I'm so paranoid that the Gynae is wrong. Gonna ask the Gynae to zoom in the dick during the next check up!

My precious honeybun munching on her smelly Chou Chou! I hope that she can accept the new sibling well...Geez, why am I so paranoid? Everything will work out! 

She's becoming obsessed about hello kitty, so much so that when she sees one, she will shout "kittyyyyyyy".

I've created a kitty monster lol.

Grumpy pants here cos she got scolded by the daddy for touching the lift walls lol.